5 Ways To Put Yourself First

 This article will not only explain ways to put yourself first but how putting yourself first will help you live a more joyful and satisfying lifestyle. There is nothing selfish about trying to be the best version of yourself, treating yourself with kindness, and overall loving yourself to the fullest from the inside out. The way you treat yourself is the way you will treat others. The way you treat yourself will teach you how others should treat you.

Let’s jump right into it!

Self-Date Night

    Taking yourself out on a date isn’t as bad as people make it seem. Have you ever wanted to go out but didn’t want any company? I know I have. I literally took myself out to the movies and enjoyed every ounce of it. I went to see “Girls Trip”  starring Queen Latifah, Jada Pinkett Smith, Regina Hall & Tiffany Haddish, the first day it came out. The theater was packed might I add. Thankfully, I arrived early enough to find the perfect seat with two arm rests to myself. I had my medium size popcorn sitting on my lap, and my large lemonade sitting in the cup holder just waiting for the movie to start. Throughout the entire movie was nothing but laughs. I didn’t care how loud I laughed, I wasn’t there trying to impress anyone… I simply made sure I had a good time. Going to the movies alone is something I would definitely do again and highly recommend to others. 

“Take yourself out to dinner and ask the host “table for 1 please?” in the most confident manner. 

Self-Apology Letter

“Dear Self” is how I started my self-apology letter.” 


    Writing a self-apology letter shows the importance of bettering yourself and forgiving yourself for the decisions you made in the past. The fact that you recognize how you’ve allowed certain things for yourself to experience, shows you are ready for a change and growth. Being honest with yourself will make it so much easier for you to write your true feelings in your letter. One great thing about writing an self-apology is it can not be written by anyone else but you.  Your letter should strictly be custom made by you because you know what you deserve and what you do not. That in itself will teach you how to teach others how you should be treated.

“When I wrote my self apology letter, I had nothing but tears running down my face and by the end of my 4th page, I felt a change in the works.”

Get Your Binge On

“I bet you can’t watch just one episode…”

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     Maybe you don’t want to go out to the movies or dinner. Maybe you want to save your coins, which I totally understand.  Find a show on Netflix and binge watch it. If you do not know what binge watching is, it means to watch multiple episodes of a series in one setting in a short period of time. You aren’t scrolling through Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram looking at what everyone else is doing with their lives. “I know when I’m watching a really good series I dont even want to blink.” All you care about is what Issa is going to do in the next episode of “Insecure” which by the way is my favorite series right now. So pop some popcorn and get comfortable! 

     Start saying “No.”

“Learn to say “No.” without explaining yourself.” 

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Saying “no” sometimes can be challenging especially when it’s being said to someone you care for, but also saying “no” can help you keep your sanity. For example, you don’t have to attend every event your friends invite you to. Some of us simply don’t know how to say no, but would rather make up a lie now and get caught up later. Um, not I. Take it how you want, but if I’m not up for the movement, I’m not going to go. Learning how to say “no” is a powerful skill and with more practice it gets easier and easier.  Saying “no” has a lot to do with staying true to yourself. Every time you agree to do something that brings you discomfort will mentally beat you up inside.  Whenever you find that you’re having a battle with your thoughts on the decision you should make, that’s when you say “no.” Always listen to that gut feeling. It could go as far as saving your own life by just listening to your inner self. Start saying “no” to others and “yes” to yourself.

Energy Absorption

“Beautiful things happen when you distance yourself from negativity”

    Believe it or not, there is energy transferred to you by those you surround yourself with. I compare negative people to parasites, they will suck the little bit of happiness you have in you, out.  Being around people who are always in a negative state of mind is draining to the brain. Negative energy cant be avoided in all, but you have a choice with what you allow yourself to be affected by. Look at the world we live in today, avoiding negative energy is a bit impossible, so it’s all about where you allow your focus to be. If your goal is to own a business, surround yourself with business owners. If you want to dance, join a dance class. If you want to work with children, take a class for child development. The point I’m trying to make here is,  there are resources out there that will lead you to exactly the thing you have a passion for. Get rid of the company you have  in your life that dims your vision. It may be easier said than done, but some people just aren’t suppose to be in your life during this season of growth. 

“You’ll never be able to grow if you are too afraid to lose people during the process. Some relationships aren’t for the new season.”


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Von Renee

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